Comments for Questions for Women http://questionsforwomen.org and men too Wed, 15 May 2013 02:59:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on Mothers’ Day – #2 by godtisx http://questionsforwomen.org/2013/05/12/mothers-day-2/#comment-1633 Wed, 15 May 2013 02:59:55 +0000 http://questionsforwomen.org/?p=2448#comment-1633 Oh wow!!!!! Good hubby!!!

]]> Comment on Mothers’ Day – #2 by questionsforwomen http://questionsforwomen.org/2013/05/12/mothers-day-2/#comment-1632 Wed, 15 May 2013 02:15:54 +0000 http://questionsforwomen.org/?p=2448#comment-1632 Thank youuuu! It was lovely. Hubby unexpectedly did a lot – considering he’s still on crutches. :)

]]> Comment on Mothers’ Day – #2 by godtisx http://questionsforwomen.org/2013/05/12/mothers-day-2/#comment-1631 Tue, 14 May 2013 05:43:24 +0000 http://questionsforwomen.org/?p=2448#comment-1631 Awwww!!! What a joyous face she has. Wow, that was a gift to me, to see!

Hope you had an amazing mother’s day. Nice post.

]]> Comment on Trade of Innocents – The Freedom Project by starlitwishes http://questionsforwomen.org/2013/05/04/trade-of-innocents-the-freedom-project/#comment-1629 Thu, 09 May 2013 19:32:35 +0000 http://questionsforwomen.org/?p=2430#comment-1629 :) I feel the same way about that show.

It is said that many people are content to live life with so much ignorance – it really is NOT bliss.

You’re welcome! :)

]]> Comment on Trade of Innocents – The Freedom Project by questionsforwomen http://questionsforwomen.org/2013/05/04/trade-of-innocents-the-freedom-project/#comment-1628 Thu, 09 May 2013 13:43:59 +0000 http://questionsforwomen.org/?p=2430#comment-1628 No worries. I’m a bit nervous about how upsetting that documentary is going to be. Thank YOU for sharing your story.
I have a love/hate feeling with Big Bang Theory. On the whole it’s funny, but there are a lot of ‘jokes’ and representations I don’t care for.
I agree. We must put this out there. Unfortunately, it will be one of my least read posts (along with so many posts with other topics I discuss) as people really don’t want up know.
It’s like if they ignore it, it doesn’t exist.
Onward and upward, I say. We can’t remain mute about such a horrific stain on our humanity.
It was lovely to have you stop by and share. :) x

]]> Comment on Trade of Innocents – The Freedom Project by starlitwishes http://questionsforwomen.org/2013/05/04/trade-of-innocents-the-freedom-project/#comment-1627 Thu, 09 May 2013 00:18:33 +0000 http://questionsforwomen.org/?p=2430#comment-1627 I watched this film during my Christmas holidays last year, and I couldn’t stop crying throughout most of it. I was planning on doing a paper on child trafficking, and that’s how I found it. It was heart-breaking.

There are so many little things we can do, as the ‘lucky’ ones who know about the reality that trafficked individuals have to face, the least of which is talking about the problem openly. I find that the topic is so hush-hush most of the time, and makes people very uncomfortable. I, on the other hand, feel uncomfortable NOT talking about it. I feel like openly discussing the issue is the first step to raising awareness, and making people see it as a problem that affects all of us, and not just ‘them’.

I don’t know if you’ve ever watched it, but I usually enjoy watching the Big Bang Theory. Recently, though, there was an episode where Raj, one of the main characters who is originally from India but is now researching and working in the US, says something along the lines of having four servants back home, and then says “and two of them were children”. This is supposed to be a joke, but I found it utterly distasteful, because it made a mockery of the harsh reality so many marginalized children face the world over. It was very insulting to me, particularly because I was born in India, and spent quite a bit of my childhood there, seeing first-hand the destitution that many children face. I was lucky enough to have been born in a relatively well-off family, but I saw many children forced to work as house-servants at a very young age instead of going to school, because their parents could not afford to educate them. It was really tragic, and I am glad my family saw how wrong this was and tried to help in any way they could.

Anyway, point being, child trafficking and servitude (whether it be for sex or labour) is disgusting and deserves our attention, especially because we have the knowledge and resources to work to stop it.

Thanks for sharing the trailer for Nefarious. I hadn’t heard of that one, but will check it out when I can.

]]> Comment on Question #156: How do women disrespect men? Ladies? by questionsforwomen http://questionsforwomen.org/2013/04/26/question-156-how-do-women-disrespect-men-ladies/#comment-1625 Wed, 08 May 2013 11:16:43 +0000 http://questionsforwomen.org/?p=2389#comment-1625 Wow, Regina. Spot on. That was so well articulated.
I think it’s exactly right that our young boys and girls are so very vulnerable and that we need to educate, educate, educate – and be a force combatting the waves of porn culture inundating this pop culture – aka Porn Culture – aka Rape Culture.
Thanks so much for that. Awesome. x

PS I’m friends with a few of the Collective Shout women – an amazing group. :)

]]> Comment on Question #156: How do women disrespect men? Ladies? by Regina http://questionsforwomen.org/2013/04/26/question-156-how-do-women-disrespect-men-ladies/#comment-1624 Tue, 07 May 2013 15:37:50 +0000 http://questionsforwomen.org/?p=2389#comment-1624 I still maintain the fact that sexual behavior (while it is no doubt based on biological instinct) is also learned. It is not an instinct that is in need of a visual stimuli, an idea perpetuated by society. A blind man can make love to a woman, even if blind from birth. I have been told that they are actually wonderful lovers. It is a complicated subject, no doubt. For example, if a woman was to walk through a village of some tribe in Africa or South America (where women go topless every day and never cover their chest, or sometimes any part of their body) she would not be considered an object for” arousal or seduction” for doing so. Growing up in Europe I experienced as a child being at nude beaches, The attitudes of men and women seemed much healthier to me then if you go to a beach at Miami or so these days. To me it is more about seeing the human body as something honorable and sacred. Nudity is not pornography, instead the objectification and distorted views of the human body is. And yes, I believe boys and even men can grow up to master their sex drive in a healthy way versus letting it master them. Of course women have a responsibility too. Yet when it comes to young women growing up in this culture where there are learning that to be desirable and receive the attention which (most) young people desire: they need to use, constantly improve on and master their “sex appeal”, at least according to the images and attitudes they are bombarded with on TV, in magazines and just about everywhere they look. We do live in a “rape culture” where often times the question is : what was she wearing?, why was she even at this party drinking?, was she flirting? etc Those things don’t cause rape, rapists cause rape. The pressure on girls is devastating these days and many of those girls just think it is “normal” to be objectified, the only way to get attention and they loose self respect along the way. Research has shown that girls who behave “seductively” as described in “the initial” question above, have extremely low self esteem (even though their actions may appear to signal the opposite) . They are told the lie that being seductive towards men is “empowering”. They don’t think they are “disrespecting men” (that’s for women and girls in the middle east and so to be told) , they think they are “giving them what they want” I think we all need to take a step back and take responsibility for our own thoughts and actions and how we might contribute to this “Porn culture”. Even if we don’t participate, we need to reevaluate and speak up to protect our vulnerable boys and girls who are learning to respond to those lies. Fortunately more and more men are waking up are standing up to sexism, countering hyper-sexualization and reevaluating their attitudes towards women and girls. This is a good video to watch, at the end she shares how we all can make a difference: http://collectiveshout.org/2013/01/watch-sexual-objectification-explained/

]]> Comment on Question #156: How do women disrespect men? Ladies? by questionsforwomen http://questionsforwomen.org/2013/04/26/question-156-how-do-women-disrespect-men-ladies/#comment-1623 Tue, 07 May 2013 10:50:30 +0000 http://questionsforwomen.org/?p=2389#comment-1623 Thanks for your comment, Doug.
I don’t pretend to know what it’s like to be a man and said exactly that in my comment to Regina. I don’t know if it’s harder for men seeing hyper-sexualised women everywhere (in the media, shows, ads, t-shirts etc.) or not.
I think this is a tricky time we’re in at the moment due to what we’re being ‘sold’ about each other. I’ve always discussed how badly women are being represented, but I also feel that men are being portrayed as mindless – one that is perpetuating this Porn Culture.
I certainly don’t want men to change their natures (and neither should women for that matter) – that would create an equally problematic imbalance to everything – but things are spiralling out of control in this current Porn Culture and each gender needs to pull back on the reins a bit.
Thanks again for stopping by. I think it’s important to get a male’s perspective. :)

]]> Comment on Question #156: How do women disrespect men? Ladies? by Doug http://questionsforwomen.org/2013/04/26/question-156-how-do-women-disrespect-men-ladies/#comment-1622 Mon, 06 May 2013 19:33:34 +0000 http://questionsforwomen.org/?p=2389#comment-1622 When was Regina a man, I mean one born as a man? She has no business stating anything about how MEN feel. You aren’t one, so how do you know? Observation and what you are TOLD so don’t go around telling people how men feel on the subject of sex or their lack to control it. It’s because we’re wired they way we are (men and women) that we’re here at all. You ask us to change our very natures to a point we’re no longer men, just women with penises.

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